I wrote a Facebook rant. I’m not new to the good ole social media rant. But it is something I specifically avoid at all cost any more. Why? Because it’s too exhausting. It’s mentally draining to argue a point and quite frankly, I have better things to do these days. I can live with the satisfaction of being right, but I don’t have to argue that point to the world. Call it growing up.
But… I couldn’t take it. I had to rant…
And so began the “unlikes.” Apparently it is offensive to some people to ask them to stop showing me pictures of decapitated children. I understand that most people in the US sharing these pictures are not doing so to hurt anyone. They want to inform people; to shake us out of our apathy. I absolutely agree with the sentiment. Ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance is dangerous.
Here’s the deal… I am extra sensitive these days; I’ll admit to that. As I’ve written on this blog, I lost a baby in November. I miscarried at 11 weeks. In case you haven’t been there… it’s a big deal. I delivered the baby at home in an excruciatingly painful natural miscarriage and had to flush the toilet (because I was scared and didn’t know how to process what was happening and didn’t know what else to do). A week later I ended up with a ranging infection that could have killed me. To say that my experiences were traumatizing would be accurate.
We all have pain. We all live through terrible things. We all process the pain in different ways. My processing the grief has made me very sensitive, easily depressed, and desperate for stability and calm in my life. Of course this year has offered me anything but stability and calm.
Now the world is on fire. Watching the news is a terrifying thing these days.

I don’t want to be this transparent. I don’t want to admit that seeing some of the most graphic images I’ve ever seen has affected me deeply and very negatively. Maybe I’m not calloused enough. Maybe I’ve been a raw, open wound walking around since I lost my baby in November. But maybe people need to think before they share. I don’t want the older children and teenagers who use Facebook to be bombarded with pictures of beheaded children and other horrendous images. I do not need to see these things. The news is almost more than I can bear to listen to right now.
I’m a Christian. I have a child. This literally makes me and my girl a target in this world today. And so I’m scared. I’m grieving. I’m begging God for mercy. I’m praying for God to protect my heart from the paralyzing fear that threatens to bring me to a dark place. 

Are you a parent who is terrified for your children to be growing up in this world? Please join me and pray. There isn’t much else we can do. Pray and hold your babies, love them, and love each other.
Peace on earth, goodwill to men.

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4 Comments on And Then I Wrote a Rant

  1. Rosilind Jukic
    August 12, 2014 at 4:22 am (3 years ago)

    Thankfully, I have avoided those pictures (but recently I went through and hid a bunch of people) – but I had friends who posted similar statuses and to my amazement sparked a debate. When did it become okay to share PICTURES of stuff like that. There was a time when delicacy and discretion ruled the day – but not anymore. We know about what is happening – and that is bad enough – but it certainly isn't necessary to see it.

    I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks – I know how emotionally painful it is. Honestly – if people unfriended you because of your status, it is their problem not yours.You provided a viable (and honestly BETTER) alternative – but sharing images like that sort of reminds me of the Christian gladiators of Rome. I know normal people don't post pictures to ENJOY what is happening…but I question why they do it at all….and especially why they debate the issue when others ask them to stop. It seems strange to me.

  2. lokkesja
    August 12, 2014 at 7:41 pm (3 years ago)

    I completely agree. Our media loves to saturate our minds with horrible images. God tells us to guard our hearts and minds, which I think means to shield ourselves from these awful images. We can talk about this tragedy without the pictures. We can do something about this evil without subjecting our eyes to it's grotesque and disgraceful photos. If my child was butchered, I wouldn't want their body displayed for the world to see. Our media and Facebook friends need to use discretion before posting these awful images. I appreciate your honesty about how this made you feel. I can't even imagine.

  3. survivingtoddlerhood.com
    August 18, 2014 at 6:35 pm (3 years ago)

    I understand your point. I wouldn't want a horrific image of my child all over FB, but I also think we are so self absorbed here that some people do need to see those pictures to wake up to the world around them.
    I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine your hurt. I pray that God will bring peace and healing to your heart.

  4. Anonymous
    September 24, 2014 at 5:53 am (3 years ago)

    Carissa, amen. That's all. Just amen. Let us all pray without ceasing…


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